When you’re young, falling in love just seems fun.
You think about flowers, chocolates, and romantic dinners. And while this is an amazing part about falling in love, it doesn’t last forever. Eventually, things start to fall into a routine. After all, most people lead busy lives, and they don’t have an unlimited amount of time to spoil each other. Between school, work, and maybe even kids, you might think that the romance would just die away.
But Amy Betters-Midtvedt knows that it doesn’t. While love might not look the same during all stages of life, that doesn’t mean that it’s not still very real. Amy shared that knowledge via a viral post.
In the post, she shows a picture of her husband, Todd Midtvedt, smiling and walking toward her in the grocery store.
Why was here there? That’s because Amy had left her wallet at home and was stuck at the grocery store with a ton of food she was trying to purchase. She couldn’t leave since she didn’t have her money.
But Todd was nice enough to leave work to bring her his credit card, so she could pay.
Even though he had to leave his job, he’s smiling, clearly amused.
Amy wrote: “Listen up young ones: This is what your knight in shining armor looks like when you are in your 40s.”
Amy goes on to make the point that while grand romantic gestures seem very important when you’re young and falling in love, that’s not what is most important. Instead, you need to find somebody who is going to support you, offer you help when you need it, and assist you in becoming the best person you can be.
She then goes on to talk about what love looks like in her 40s:
“Love also looks like me coming downstairs to a full pot of coffee every morning because coffee is love.
“Love looks like all the lunches being made already so I can enjoy that aforementioned cup of coffee.
“Love looks like someone washing the dishes while his wife catches up on ‘This is Us,’ while plopped on the couch not helping at all.”
If you haven’t been in a long-term relationship like Amy’s, those things might not sound that romantic.
But once you have been with someone for a long time, you learn that that is what is going to make you happy in the long run. Not someone who will buy you a dozen roses, but someone who will take out the trash when you don’t feel like doing it or bringing you some hot soup when you are sick.
Amy said that when she was young, there were signs that Todd would be the amazing husband that he is today.
For one, he would always carry her backpack around campus. He would run out whenever she wanted a late-night snack, and he would stay out with her when she wanted to hang out with her friends even when he wanted to go home.
At the end of her post, Amy told young people that they should be focused on these qualities instead of big, flashy, or showy proposals or gestures.
That stuff might be sweet, but it’s not what really counts. At the end of the day, what matters is that you have someone by your side who is going to help you make it through life every step of the way.
Please SHARE this with your friends and family.
